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What keeps you up at night? Answering this may help us understand the source of our own dukkha
(dissatisfaction, unhappiness, anxiety, stress…). If you do not recall the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism, now may be a good time to review them, especially the second noble truth. (See The Second Noble Truth in today’s Nightstand Buddhist.)
The CBT Sangha discussed humility, as antidote to pride, at our Sangha June gathering. We discovered humility is a difficult concept for us in the west. It not only is a difficult concept to grasp, but also very difficult, if not impossible, to put into genuine practice.
In the West, we tend to define success in material terms. Self-help books, seminars and personal coaches train us for assertiveness, self-promotion and behavior to impress others. It is ubiquitous so we don’t notice it, except when we do. These measures of success are subjective and always shift over time. These hinder, if not negate, our ability to practice the Buddhist concept of humility.
Living life where the ego-self continually demands more rarely leads to a dukkha free life, or a peaceful night’s sleep. The ego-self can never have enough. We achieve one goal and then set the bar even higher. It seems we are rarely satisfied with this mind set. When will we ever be satisfied? And what is the “more” we seek?
Merriam Webster defines humility as: freedom from pride or arrogance. Pride, at what cost do we feed it? Humility may be seen as weak, being a pushover, being used, but is it? What is wrong with truly listening to the other when we think we don’t agree? Humility allows us to do that, to listen. We may find when we listen, we begin to understand why that person has that view. We may even begin to understand and modify our own views. Humility is being able to admit errors on our part, admitting we might be wrong, acknowledging our human limitations.
How liberating is that, not having to be right all the time? And what about the paramita of Dana we speak of at each Cleveland Buddhist Temple Shin Service? Dana: to give non-transactionally, to make it a habit that we do not acknowledge even to ourselves, to do it every day and to begin to experience non-attachment that our ego-centric self fights against.
Maybe what keeps us up at night is something we can change; by putting into practice the Buddhist practice of humility and by doing so, finding restful nights of restorative sleep.
Namo Amida Butsu
Namo Amida Butsu
Namo Amida Butsu
Rev. Anita
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