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Issue #28  //  Turning Into the Skid 🚗 

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From Melia:

It’s Week 8 of sheltering-in-place with my family, and I’m feeling a weird blend of getting used to our Groundhog Day-like routine while simultaneously being worn down by it.

We're finding a rhythm to the day through a ridiculous amount of trial and error (“Okay, so that bombed. Let’s try this…”). The kids are A LOT in the mornings, so we’ve learned to get them outside early and then work as much as possible in the afternoons. Our staff video call, lunch, dinner, and bedtime happen around the same times, giving our days a loose structure.

But even though we’re habituating to our new normal, its duration and intensity are getting to me. It’s hard to focus. Now and then, I dip into despair. When Evan and Avery are both whining and the dog gets agitated and starts barking, which whips the cats into a frenzy, I want to scream at the four-walled circus that is our lives right now.

My immediate reaction is to fight these moments, to thrash against them in protest. This shouldn’t be happening! But that just escalates the chaos and makes a hard moment worse. What you resist, persists.

I’ve learned the hard way that things resolve more smoothly when I lean into whatever IS happening, regardless of how I want it to be. It’s like how you regain control of a fishtailing car by “turning into the skid.” It’s counter-intuitive, because your impulse is to steer in the opposite direction, but gently going with the momentum lets you straighten out and stay on the road.

Things starting to skid when the kids are acting wild? Instead of yelling at them, take them outside to do a timed run. Long delays for curbside pickup? Pull up that article on your phone that you’ve been meaning to read, and pass the time on your terms. Lean in to what wants to happen and make the best of it.

When something doesn’t go the way we want it to, we may not like it, but we can manage it. We can take a deep breath, grasp the wheel, and turn into the skid until we’re able to steer again.

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On the Interwebs  🖥

From Melia: 

  • The Uber-Talented Maya Hawke
    I was so excited when I realized that Robin, a new character on the latest season of Stranger Things, was played by Maya Hawke. Her parents are Ethan Hawke, my teenage crush, and Uma Thurman, my teenage girl crush (I was a huge Pulp Fiction fan). I love this profile on how the pandemic has crashed into her rising star and sent the 21-year-old from Hollywood back to living at home with her siblings. Also, she sings! This track is my favorite.

From Gill: 

  • Space & Levity
    I have my calendar marked for May 29 – the day Space Force, a new comedy series from Steve Carell and The Office co-creator Greg Daniels, comes out on Netflix. Carell plays Air Force General Mark Naird, who is "tapped by the White House to lead a new branch of the Armed Forces with the goal of putting American 'Boots on the Moon' by 2024." The trailer cracked me up, and I can’t wait for some Dunder Mifflin-esque hijinx set in space.

On Our Screens & In Our Ears  📺  🎧

From Melia: 

  • Up Schitt's Creek   
    I'm a little late to the party on Schitt's Creek, which just finished a six-season run, but I'm loving it so far. It follows the misadventures of the Rose family as they suddenly lose their fortune and have to relocate to the small town called Schitt's Creek, which they once bought as a joke. The show has been a great palate cleanser for our usual intense, hour-plus cable dramas like The Walking Dead and Westworld. It's also relevant to see how people adapt to a sudden change in circumstances. (Moira is the voice of my inner drama queen.)  

From Gill: 

  • Fetch the Bolt Cutters  
    Fiona Apple just released Fetch the Bolt Cutters, her first album in eight years, and my angsty ‘90s girl heart rejoiced. Tidal and When the Pawn… are still two of my favorite albums, and though it’s very different, I’m digging her new one. It’s raw and percussive – sometimes haunting, sometimes jarring. I’m playing it loud on those days when it just feels appropriate.

On Our Plates   🍽 

From Melia: 

  • Oven-Baked Taco Bowls

    Darren had a great idea for a dinner to celebrate Cinco de Mayo: oven-baked taco bowls. He lined two round, medium-sized Pyrex dishes with whole wheat tortillas and baked them at 350 for around 10 minutes. Add whatever taco fixins you like – he used grilled chicken, shredded cheese, lettuce, tomato, Greek yogurt with lime (we sub this for sour cream), and Tapatío sauce – and enjoy.

From Gill: 

  • Pantry Fish Stew
    I bought frozen fish filets on my last trip to the store, and I used them – along with other pantry staples – to make a simple stew loosely based on this recipe. Sauté onion and garlic in olive oil. Pour in a little white wine if you like, then add stock, canned tomatoes, roasted red peppers, and corn, and spices (I used turmeric, thyme, paprika, saffron, bay leaves, salt, and pepper). Simmer until it thickens a bit, then add frozen fish filets to cook the last few minutes. It's ready when the fish flakes easily with a fork.

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Until next time! 


Melia & Gill 😘😘

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