2. Quit trying to perform or fit into the role of a lover.
Monogamous romantic relationships can easily become contractual — where one person plays the object of affection and the other, the simp. I also fell prey to these notions and felt like I had to play the role of a “girlfriend” — which to me meant performing a forced femininity — right from the way I looked, to the way I talked. This was too taxing, and I constantly felt I was messing up some scripted role when in reality all I had to do was.. improv! I was also guilty of extending some of these roles to my partner, forgetting in the chaos of it all that we’re both only human, who can play the part of ourselves.
3. In this world, it's just us?
Nope — set boundaries, and make sure your relationship isn’t your entire world. Pop culture can definitely make us believe that you don’t need anybody except your partner, but that’s not true! Think about it: if your life revolves around your partner, you’re making them single-handedly responsible for your happiness, which (as we shall learn multiple times in life), is only ours to look after.