I think this is applicable to so many of us. There is a challenge and an opportunity in using where you have been to help you go where you need to go. In your past story, there are mistakes, jobs, relationships, failures, pain, and experiences to remind you what you’ve survived. Use this as data to inform the choices you make next. You can only see how far you’ve come if you occasionally glance behind you. So, revisiting times in our lives that offer lessons, is incredibly important.
But revisiting does NOT mean to relive. You must personally and professionally find ways to evaluate and reflect on your past in a way that does not stir up new pain, new blame or new trauma.
It does NOT serve you to relive the pain, mistakes, loss or grief of your past. Yet, if you can revisit as if you are checking out a book from the library (remember that??) or as if you are watching an old home movie flicker before your eyes, you can create the emotional distance to keep you safe and still look close enough to find what you need to take with you for your journey.
I have no idea what the coming months will bring. I am a newlywed. I am going to be a first-time published author and I have dreams of changing the world for children. What I DO know is that I have everything I need for the journey. And when I need to be reassured or reminded of the tools that have brought me this far, I can revisit past pain and promise without reliving those moments.
Think about it as a long road trip. Look out the window. Observe the signs and occasionally check your rear-view mirror. Remember from whence you’ve come. Yet, focus on where you are going. Yet, you cannot slow down. Yet, you cannot stop. Yet, there is no throwing the car in reverse.
Take what you need and leave the rest behind.
We have so many more glorious miles to cover, my friends. Come with me.