Yehuda Lave, Spiritual Advisor and Counselor

Yehuda Lave is an author, journalist, psychologist, rabbi, spiritual teacher, and coach, with degrees in business, psychology and Jewish Law. He works with people from all walks of life and helps them in their search for greater happiness, meaning, business advice on saving money,  and spiritual engagement. Now also a Blogger on the Times of Israel. Look for my column

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Below I bring a Rabbi's opinion as what to do without Kaddish. I continue to go to Minion as long as it is legal and feasible to do (right now we have to daven outside 2 meters apart from each other).  I make no judgement as to what anyone else is doing, but if Anyone needs me to say Kaddish for them, please let me know.

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We are coming to Passover and hence this fish story

    As Moses and the children of Israel were crossing the Red Sea, the children of Israel began to complain to Moses of how thirsty they were after walking so far. Unfortunately, they were not able to drink from the walls of water on either side of them, as they were made up of salt-water.

    Then, a fish from that wall of water told Moses that he and his family heard the complaints of the people, but that they through their own gills could remove the salt from the water and force it out of their mouths like a freshwater fountain for the Israelites to drink from as they walked by.

    Moses accepted this kindly fish's offer. But before the fish and his family began to help, they told Moses they had a demand. They and their descendants had to be always present at the seder meal that would be established to commemorate the Exodus, since they had a part in the story. When Moses agreed to this, he gave them their name which remains how they are known to this very day, for he said to them, "Go Filter Fish!" 

    What Was Ancient Egypt was like during the Ten Plagues?

    Did you ever wonder what Ancient Egypt was like during the Ten Plagues?

    Well you don't have it. In order to be able to really feel Passover this year (one is supposed to feel at the Passover Seder that he or she personally was redeemed from Egypt).

    Well this year G-d has arranged it!! Like the Egyptians, and everyone else we are going through a plague! 

    The sense of danger surrounded you. You felt as if you were in the grip of something totally beyond your control. You were completely powerless. 

    Each day new and more odious restrictions are placed on us. First only necessary trips. Now the Health Minister, no Passover Seder with your loved ones. Every day BiBi gets on TV and says if we don't behave, total lock-down is coming. 

    Ancient Egypt was the center of the world. The plagues destroyed it and the Children of Israel were freed.
    Today, world systems are near collapse because of a microscopic organism that entered the world from a seafood market in China.
    Malbim on Ezekiel 32:17. foretells events preceding the advent of Moshiach ben David and predicts a war between Ishmael and Edam (the Moslem and Western Civilizations), followed by the collapse of their cultures.
    The first  problems in the world began with unrestrained eating. In the Garden of Eden, Eve and Adam ate a fruit that was forbidden to them and brought sickness, pain, and death into the world. The Torah instructs us,. Do not explore after your heart and after your eyes….” (Numbers 15:39) The Al-Mighty has commanded all nations concerning permitted and forbidden foods. The Children of Noahall human beings – are prohibited from eating the limbs of a living animal. (Genesis 9:4) This is relevant to the current world situation.
    Eating restrictions for the Children of Israel reach their highest point during Passover. Apparently, we need to increase sanctity in order to free ourselves from subjugation to foreign cultures and prepare for the Redemption. The eating habits of the nations of the world are at the opposite end of the scale from what is permitted for us. We need to understand this.
    At this moment in history, the nations of the world are in a state of deep rebellion against Hashem. Most of the Nations are not interested in Christianity anymore. The natural and normal family that the Bible teaches for the future of Civilization, is not considered normal anymore. Homosexuality and two Fathers or Two Mother is preferred to the Nuclear family.

    It seems that G-d  wants to free His Children very soon from subjugation to these nations. Hashem told Abraham Avinu that the “fourth generation” of his children would enter Eretz Yisroel “for the iniquity of the Emorite shall not yet be full until then.” (Genesis 15:16;)

    It may well be that the iniquity of the nations is nearing the level termed “fullness.” It may be that the world's moral decline has reached levels which G-d will not tolerate. When this level is reached, we can expect world-shaking events.
    At Mount Sinai, “The Sound of the Shofar was very powerful and the entire people shuddered.” (Exodus 19:16) At this very moment in history, we are preparing to hear the sound of the Great Shofar and witness events that will change the world forever. May this happen soon in our days and may the world be transformed from darkness to light!

    Each Friday night at 6:00 PM, People all over the world gather and blow their Shofar on their porches and balconies. I did last Friday night and this coming Friday night is the last Shabbat before Passover. Join me again this coming Friday night and tell G-d we are ready.

    We want Moshiach Now!!!

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    if you knock off 220 years from 6000, 5780 (this year) is the year of the Mashiach

    You don’t need Zoom or Skype to say Kaddish without a minyan. Here’s a healthier option for the community. RABBI SETH WINBERG

    WALTHAM, Mass. (JTA) — Like so many others, I am feeling the spiritual loss and pain of our current inability to learn Torah and pray together in person. Many mourners are devoted to the customary recitation of Kaddish for a deceased close relative and struggling with how to do so in the absence of a minyan.

    Some rabbis are encouraging internet-based solutions to hold us over until this crisis abates. I’m concerned that those solutions come with a significant cost. 

    The decision to blur virtual reality with actual reality and relax the rules of minyan should not be taken lightly. Well-intentioned rabbis may think they are permitting something on a temporary basis, but the implications could be far-reaching. After we flatten the curve of this pandemic, I wonder if people will still appreciate that, in Rambam’s formulation, there is a spiritual value of “running to the synagogue.” Will it not seem more convenient to log in from home?

    Here are some of the solutions other rabbis are offering, why I believe they fall short and an alternative suggestion.

    While most Orthodox authorities maintain that a minyan consists of 10 adult men gathered together “in one place,” others argue that the minimum requirement is for them simply to be able to see each other (Pesahim 85bRambam’s Laws of Prayer 8:7 and Shulhan Arukh Orah Hayyim 55:13-14). Since we generally resolve doubts about the rabbinic requirements for a minyan leniently, the argument goes, we can consider videoconferencing as seeing each other — as leading Israeli rosh yeshiva Rabbi Eliezer Melamed has reportedly argued. Sephardic Chief Rabbi Yitzhak Yosef’s variation on this is that if 10 adult men are physically “in one place,” then others can join via the web.

    These arguments are a leap of imagination. On a video call, we see images of others, but it is not the same as seeing someone through an open door or window. 

    Rabbi Yuval Cherlow, a rosh yeshiva, or head of school, in Israel, has taken a different approach by questioning what would be so terrible about saying Kaddish at home without a minyan. Since Kaddish does not mention God’s name, saying the prayer at home privately, though not ideal, would not constitute taking God’s name in vain. In our situation, Rabbi Cherlow correctly says, the greater transgression would be to violate the instructions of the health authorities.

    This offers a possibly meaningful option for mourners, but I believe it obscures the uniqueness of Kaddish. While most prayers are a dialogue between God and people, the Kaddish is a conversation between people. Talmudic sources note that the merit of Kaddish is for those who respond (Shabbat 119b and Berakhot 57a). All of this is missed when someone says the words alone. 

    Students often tell me that friendships and relationships are stronger when they aren’t conducted through screens and devices, and that they are seeking more personal ways of connecting with one another outside of the classroom. No device can replace the emotional energy of dozens of students singing together on Shabbat afternoon. And while fewer minyan attendees on campus need to say Kaddish than do at a synagogue, the responsibility to physically be at services to support a friend saying Kaddish is a powerful opportunity to shape one’s character.

    Our ancestors created legitimate substitutions for Kaddish when a minyan wasn’t available, or when someone arrived late to shul, by using biblical verses with words similar to Kaddish — and we would do well to avail ourselves of those solutions now. According to the 13th-century work Sefer Hasidim, “a person who lives in a village without a minyan or who arrived late to the communal prayer after they had already said ‘may God’s great name …’” can say a modified version of the traditional prayer privately at home.

    A small number of American Orthodox synagogues, including the one I attend in this Boston suburb under the guidance of Rabbi Benjamin Samuels, learn Torah together online and then allow mourners to recite a medieval “Kaddish for an individual” poem (two versions available here in the original Hebrew and in translation). 

    This approach allows us to maintain the integrity of communal prayer and locate a solution within the tradition without stretching halacha (Jewish law) beyond its limits.

    We have rushed to get our normal lives online — prayer services, lectures, music lessons, Torah learning and school. But we may be deluding ourselves by trying to live normal lives during a pandemic. Life right now is drastically different. We need to find ways to nurture strong interpersonal ties — and maintain our traditions — so that our communities will still be there when we are ready to go back to them.

    RABBI SETH WINBERGis executive director of Brandeis Hillel and the university’s senior chaplain and director of spiritual life. The views expressed in this piece are his own.

    $1200 for each US Citizen

    Congress has passed the Coronavirus Aid Relief and Economic Security (CARES) Act and the president has signed it into law.  


    Attached is a detailed explanation. Here is a summary of key aid provisions:

    • Only US citizens with social security numbers who meet the income eligibility criteria are entitled to the Recovery Rebate (up to $1,200 payment per taxpayer plus $500 per child under the age of 17). Eligibility is based on your 2019 tax return if already filed, and if not filed, your 2018 tax return.
    • Please be aware that while the rebate is currently being calculated based on 2018 or 2019 tax information, the final accounting will be based on your 2020 tax return. 
    • Taxpayers who have provided US bank account details with their last tax filing will be receiving payments by direct deposit to their US bank account. All others will be receiving checks by regular mail.
    • This is an automated process. No sign up is necessary.
    • IMPORTANT: If your address has changed since you last filed, attached is form 8822 to request a change of address.
    • This rebate is separate from the yearly Child Tax Credit. This will not reduce your eligibility for the child credit on your 2020 tax return. 


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