Is it true? Is it kind?
This quote has been accredited to many sayers, so I just chose one:
"Before you speak ask yourself if what you are going to say is true, is kind, is necessary, is helpful. If the answer is no, maybe what you are about to say should be left unsaid.
- Bernard Meltzer"
Now there is profound wisdom in these words... When listening (and taking part) in discussions, how easy it is to agree with someone who is judging someone else. Really - they want you to be of the same opinion and it feels easier to just nod and agree. It takes self-control to not go with the flow of discussion. And if you cannot think of any way to turn the discussion to a more positive direction, maybe it is best to say nothing. (Or better yet - leave the discussion if possible).
I think it would be a great idea to keep the above quote somewhere where it can been seen often.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it helpful?