22 Tammuz 5731
Shalom Ubracha,
In response to your letter on 11 Tamuz, regarding your meeting with a Bochur and my opinion on the Shidduch.
In general, it is not correct to start to build the foundations of a family against one's parent's wishes, who have invested so much in their education and upbringing, and hope to see Nachas from them.
In addition, if the Bochur has good attributes, he also would not want to cause conflict between a daughter and her parents.
What is written above is in general, but especially relevant when regarding a firstborn child, which sets the tone for the following children.
My intention is not that one should sacrifice for your parents, rather it is not good for you to start the foundation of your life with such conflict, especially with parents.
To add to this, in my past meetings with your parents I have the impression that their intentions are solely your good.
May Hashem who watches over all of us with Hashgacha Pratis find you the correct Bashert.
Especially as you write on the eve of the חג הגאולה of 12-13 Tammuz of the Previous Rebbe, which draws down added ברכה for all Jews, and especially to those connected with Mosdos, as you are a teacher in a מוסד run in his רוח.
Bracha and Hatlzacha and shall we hear good news on this matter.
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