11 November 2021
“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced”
Sometimes I find out that I have stepped into a state of whining and complaining: "The technology does not work as I thought, the weather is awful, someone has done something I do not like…" The world seems to be against me and I step into a victim role. When I find myself in this state, I can - on a good day - get out of it. Sometimes I remind myself of someone I admire and think about how that person would have acted. Even if complaining is easy and addictive, it’s such a relief to step out of the victimhood and instead take responsibility and do something pro-active.
1 Stop yourself when you find yourself complaining, whining and taking on a victim role.
2 Say to yourself: “I have a thought that…”
3 Evaluate this thought:
a) Is it something you can’t do anything about (for example the weather)?
b) Is it something you can do anything about (for example, what kind of clothes are you wearing)?
4 a) Observe what you can’t change, examine your thoughts with an inner smile, letting them pass without clinging to them.
b) Do something that changes the situation.
Tip of the dayMake a commitment with yourself: Whenever you get aware that you have positioned yourself into a victim role, stop doing it and do something proactive.