Replies I now give to Marie
"Where is the evidence Marie? I mean solid evidence that would stand up in court?"
"The way you see me isn't the way everyone sees me Marie."
"You think I'll fail but I'll give it a go and let time speak for itself. Better a life of 'oh well's' than 'what if's' "
Or, if all else fails..
"Shut the f**k up Marie."
You might ask why I just dont cut her out of my life and trust me, I'd love to but there ARE times when her words come from a place of compassion, of not wanting me to get hurt or disappointed when trying something new. Or a place of experience when she can see I am about to make a smilar mistake to one I have made in the past.
She's not ALL bad but shes not always true either and so now, when she pipes up with her opinion I ask myself two things...
"What's the intention of those words?" and
"How helpful are they?"
Based on the answers, I will either pay attention or carry on regardless.
She will never leave me.
She IS me.
She's the voice in my head giving a running commentary of my life. Sometimes she even makes me laugh "Whatever happens, remember, you've got plenty of gin and cheese"
Who is your Marie?
What does she say and why?
Give her a name and see how much easier it is to deal with her once she has her own identity.
And don't forget, gin and cheese always helps!
With love from Our Altered Life to yours, Charlie xx