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Why?
This has to rank as the number one question asked by children around the world, from just-talking toddlers to back-talking teens.
Searching for the why drives many of us throughout our lives, both personally and professionally. Our desire to know the human motivation that puts events into motion never ceases. Even if after knowing why, the only thing we have the ability to change is our reaction to the situation, not the actual situation itself.
Knowing why is also critical for writers, both on a creative level (why is this story happening? why does this character do that?) and on a professional level (why the heck am I writing these stories anyways?). A good writer should always respect the reader's intelligence by creating both plausible character motivation and a believable story premise.
And when faced with one of life's many challenges, knowing why can help you encourage yourself to keep going...as well as be a voice of encouragement to others once you know their why, too.
Whether all of you fine folks reading this realize it or not, you have been that voice of encouragement to me. Thank you for reading, for subscribing, for sharing the stories I have put out into the world.
One of the reasons why I have not yet published Camp Castlewood is the reality of balancing my daily life (mom, wife, job, dog doorman, etc.) with my parents' increasing decline. It has been a long, long road - a scary and stressful one - but I am relieved to say that as of a week ago, they are both in a wonderful assisted living community where they are safe and have the care they both need.
For anyone out there in the need of help for aging parents or family members, I recommend beginning at The National Council on Aging for resources and information.
Be brave. Have the tough conversations with elderly family members and with your siblings and family members who are able to help. Anticipate resistance, denial, and grieving for this change from all parties involved.
Most of all, surround yourself with people that know your why, who can love and support you no matter what.
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