Our last episode was on perfectionism, and I secretly hoped that talking about it would magically cure me of it.
Melia and I discussed how perfectionism is the root of most of our internal obstacles and can hold us back from trying new things or pursuing our goals. We shared research on why perfectionism is dangerous and strategies for embracing self-compassion and striving for good enough.
With all of this, surely now I will be enlightened and free from my harmful perfectionist tendencies, right? Hahaha nope.
This past week, I’ve had a particularly hard time following my own advice. I’ve gotten frustrated when reality didn’t meet my unrealistic expectations. I’ve stared at blank screens and struggled to find the perfect words, instead of just starting. And I’ve let self-criticism take over my inner monologue – drowning out compassion, mindfulness, and gratitude – because come on, I should know better!
But, like most of what we talk about on the podcast, overcoming perfectionism is an ongoing practice. Even when we know better, it still takes work to do better. So I’m trying to pause and reset, reflecting on what I’m struggling with right now and revisiting the strategies I know will help. I’m not doing it perfectly, of course, but the mistakes really are part of the process.