I don’t know if y’all noticed, but it’s June. We’re halfway through the year, which honestly makes me a little agitated whenever I think about it.
When I catch a glimpse of the calendar, my first thought isn’t: “What a lovely year it’s been so far!” (and it has been). It’s: “Dear god, it’s almost July?! What have you been doing with your time? You were supposed to have accomplished so much more by now! Time is running out!” – and other helpful commentary.
“More” is a word that comes up often for both Melia and me. It’s an undercurrent in the language we use with ourselves, and the message is: You could be doing more, you could be more, if only you weren’t so… [fill in the blank with unkind adjective]. It. Is. Exhausting.
So as we are preparing for our next episode, a midpoint check-in on our 19 for 2019 goals, I’m consciously trying to give myself credit for the progress I have made – instead of dwelling on all the ways I could have done more. Basically, I’m reminding myself to take our own advice. We are so wise!
If you struggle with this, too, start here:
- Visible is memorable: Write down your goals, and put them somewhere where you’ll see them every day.
- Think about the why behind a goal. Envision your “desired future state” to help you get through the hassles along the way.
- Count it. If you find yourself asking, “Does this count?” because a goal seems too small or you’ve only made a little bit of progress, yes! It counts. Give yourself credit.
You really do have it more together than you think you do.