A 'good divorce' can minimize negative impact on children: author Sarah Armstrong
While divorce can be hard on children, there are ways to minimize its negative impact on yours.
On a recent episode of the Divorcing Well podcast, Leanne Townsend spoke with Sarah Armstrong, the author of The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce: What to Think Through When Children are Involved, about why a good divorce is a worthwhile goal.
Armstrong says that a good divorce is when a couple puts their feelings about each other aside and focuses on doing what’s best for their children.
To remove the toxicity, she suggests taking control of your reactions and the choices you make when your kids are around. Reacting to your ex-spouse can affect your children, so using your internal strength to compartmentalize emotions and not lashing out is part of what makes a divorce “good.”
Plus, minimizing the changes for children helps mitigate the negative divorce impact. For example, rather than having the child lug their belongings back and forth between homes, keeping all of the children's essentials at each parent's home can make things easier for them and prevent the constant visual reminder that they are a child of divorce.
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