Real conversations are intellectual, thoughtful and meaningful.
Great thoughts mixed with powerful emotions are shared between two or more individuals.
Beautiful conversations can be created if we tap into the deep minds of ourselves and others we are engaging.
Real conversations take effort and cooperation, but creates a very rewarding relationship.
Who wouldn't want to base their relationship with their horse on the ability to have real conversations?
When with my horses, I speak in complete sentences and paragraphs, carrying on constant real conversations, just like I'd have with coworkers, friends and family.
3 Ways To Have Real Conversations with Your Horse
1. GET OUT OF 'YOURSELF' AND MAKE IT ABOUT THE HORSE
Have you ever had someone talk endlessly about something that you didn’t have the slightest interest in? It probably felt like they were having a conversation with themselves and you just happened to be there. These people seem to be oblivious to the idea that you may not share their interest.
IS THIS HOW YOUR HORSE FEELS WITH YOUR COMMUNICATION?
The best conversations begin with showing an interest in your horse, their world, and what they might be interested in. Great real conversationalists have a sincere interest in others, notice things about them, and use these things to start and fuel their conversations.
2. GO DEEPER IN THE LEVEL OF CONVERSATION
Think of the people that you are willing to open up to and share things with. What is it about them that makes you so comfortable disclosing things that you wouldn’t normally with others? Does your horse open up to you?
ARE YOU THAT PERSON FOR YOUR HORSE??
Horses might or might not be good at making eye contact with you and making you feel like you are receiving their full and undivided attention. Pay attention to their expressions. Notice that they are with you not only in the tone of their language but in their expressions. Their faces light up when you are sharing something you are happy or excited about, and they take on a solemn, sad look when you are sharing bad news. You sense and feel that they are totally engrossed in what you are telling them.
DO YOU SEE THIS KIND OF ATTENTION WITH YOUR HORSE?
3. ASK GOOD QUESTIONS
We can get others to share more by showing an interest and asking open-ended questions to help them get deeper into the conversation. Good questions are asking someone how they think or feel about something that they are talking about. If you have talked to someone before, ask them about things that they volunteered in the conversation before. Likely, if they brought up something on their own, it is of interest and some importance to them. Ask yourself what other areas that are related to their interests they would love to talk about.
DO YOUR QUESTIONS MOTIVATE YOUR HORSE?
Consider time and space. Never start a conversation beyond exchanging quick pleasantries unless you have the time to hear your horse out.
Places that are noisy with a lot of people around are not the best places to engage in real conversation.
Good conversation requires a slow, relaxed pace and a pressure-free atmosphere free of distractions.
One on one engagement creates a perfect environment.
Let me show you a few of the possibilities....