I met my hero.
Here’s how it went down:
I'm coaching a leadership team in Buenos Aires.
I wake to screaming fans outside the hotel.
Confused, I stroll to breakfast.
I sip coffee. Then I see.
The band I adore.
Sitting a few meters away.
A frantic Google search. They are playing this weekend.
Tickets SOLD OUT.
Damn. I need to get to that show.
How can I get what I want?
I have options.
I can tell them.
“I want tickets for your show.”
Direct, but they might think who is this crazy stalker?
I can ask.
“Can I have tickets for the show?”
The type of question most people ask.
But it’s a bad question.
It puts people on the spot. Forcing a Yes or No.
It’s usually asked with a begging voice. Can I….? Pretty please!
I can ask a better question:
“How can I get tickets to the show?”
This type of question works because:
- It’s an open question. The key word is “how”
- It gets them to solve your problem.
- It demonstrates genuine curiosity.
I take option 3.
2 x VIP tickets.
To get more of what you want, take option 3.
- How can I get a pay rise?
- How can I get a promotion?
- How can I get an upgrade?
Now your turn. Go get more of what you want.