Sometimes little things annoy us. And sometimes the proverbial matter hits the fan (not using the s-word as this is a family-friendly email) and everything seems to go wrong.
When that happens, and the worst anger has passed, look back. Surely such unpleasant events were not the first ones in your life? And apparently you survived or you wouldn't be reading this email.
How do you feel now about those past annoying phases? You probably now look at them as something that is behind you, something you mastered. Not saying you don't have negative emotions about them, that is only human, but the more time has passed, the less you allow those negative emotions take over and dictate your life.
Think of these difficult phases like sandpaper. What does sandpaper feel like? Coarse, not something you'd like to rub against your skin. But what does sandpaper do? It smooths uneven surfaces into something beautiful. Quite like past difficulties have transformed you. You learned you survived. You learned new mental and practical skills to walk into a better tomorrow.
Don't try to avoid life's annoying things. They could be something you cannot stop from entering your life and even trying will simply add unnecessary stress in your mind.
Live your days to the fullest, acknowledge the difficulties when they arrive, and make plans how to deal with the things you have control over. And there is always one thing you can work on, even if you cannot change what has happened - your attitude. No, not saying you should be a Pollyanna and declare your happiness when in fact you feel miserable. Instead remember the famous saying "This too shall pass". Trust that. And start paying attention to the little specks of light when they begin to appear in the darkness again. They will increase with time.
And you guess what I am going to say next: write down those little moments when life begins to feel better. They will show you your progress towards a lighter future. Recommended bed-time reading for sure.