We are all such amazing human beings, all with our own unique potential yet we limit ourselves by saying ‘oh but it’s not perfect’. The thing is it never will be. When we fall into the trap of perfectionism, we spend our time and energy tweaking and adapting things until we are happy with the desired outcome.
But are we ever really happy?
We will ALL make mistakes at some point in our lives, whether that’s in how we educate our children to a spelling mistake on a CV.
The fact of the matter is that pressure to be perfect could be impacting your mental health. Perfectionism can cause feelings of stress, anxiety and depression. There is a difference between perfectionism and healthy behaviour.
As the amazing Brene Brown says, "Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best. Perfection is not about healthy achievement and growth." She explains how perfectionism is used by many people as a shield to protect themselves against the pain of blame, judgement or shame.
Here are three things you can do to let go of perfectionism and step into more healthy behaviour…
Stop referring to yourself or others as perfect – Stop judging yourself (and others) and apologising for not being perfect. Choose to accept that you’re doing your best in life and that is enough.
Know that you don’t have to be perfect to be worthy – Your worth is completely separate from how perfect you might see yourself. You love others unconditionally so it’s time to start treating yourself like you do your loved ones.
Put yourself first – The need to be perfect is often rooted in the desire to make others happy. That’s really lovely, but make sure you prioritise you otherwise you are doing yourself a disservice.