Happy Friday,

We all face this dilemma.

Here's one way to navigate it.

With Gratitude,

Toby

You strongly disagree.

In fact, you are outraged.

Now, you face a choice.

Do you shut up or speak up?

Let's explore the options

Option 1 - Shut Up

You ignore the disagreement and stay quiet.

You sleep on the issue, hoping tomorrow you feel better.

The downside, your voice isn’t heard.

Option 2 - Speak Up

You tackle the issue head-on. Expressing your strong opinion.

The benefit, you might win the argument.

But this approach gets a bad reputation for “command and control”

Now there is a third option.

Where you can get the best of both worlds.

Option 3 - Shut Up AND Speak Up.

This is a collaborative approach.

You express your position, whilst creating space for someone else to do the same.

Here are some examples:

• I'm curious about your approach and what I can learn from it. (Speak Up) How did you arrive at this solution? (Shut Up)
• I’d like to talk about this decision with you, but first I’d like to get your perspective. (Speak Up) What led you to this decision? (Shut Up)
• I think we have different perceptions about _____________________. (Speak Up) What do you think about this? (Shut Up)

Next time you disagree:

Shut Up AND Speak Up.