You strongly disagree.
In fact, you are outraged.
Now, you face a choice.
Do you shut up or speak up?
Let's explore the options
Option 1 - Shut Up
You ignore the disagreement and stay quiet.
You sleep on the issue, hoping tomorrow you feel better.
The downside, your voice isn’t heard.
Option 2 - Speak Up
You tackle the issue head-on. Expressing your strong opinion.
The benefit, you might win the argument.
But this approach gets a bad reputation for “command and control”
Now there is a third option.
Where you can get the best of both worlds.
Option 3 - Shut Up AND Speak Up.
This is a collaborative approach.
You express your position, whilst creating space for someone else to do the same.
Here are some examples:
- I'm curious about your approach and what I can learn from it. (Speak Up) How did you arrive at this solution? (Shut Up)
- I’d like to talk about this decision with you, but first I’d like to get your perspective. (Speak Up) What led you to this decision? (Shut Up)
- I think we have different perceptions about _____________________. (Speak Up) What do you think about this? (Shut Up)
Next time you disagree:
Shut Up AND Speak Up.