But then, somewhere in between, I read the words “How wild it was to let it be” in Cheryl Strayed’s book wild, and the sky lit up. I knew I had to tattoo that somewhere on my body. Not only as a way to commemorate that for the first time in my life I was going with the flow but to always remind myself that life is best lived when you simply let go.
Let go of those expectations you have of the world.
Let go of trying so hard to fit in.
Let go of this path you’re on if it doesn’t suit you.
And think about how wild it is to just let things be. As they are. As they aren’t.
It is absolutely freeing once you start repeating that sentence over and over. It’s really wild indeed. How many of us can truly say that we let things be? That we’re relinquishing control over to the universe, hoping that it returns to us what we seek the most?
That sentence kept me going every time a useless fictional worry popped up. My need to control everything has subsided significantly this past year and I have Cheryl to thank for it.
But then, something happened. I exchanged those words for new ones. And these new words allowed me to grow in ways I didn’t think I could. As a mom, as a wife, as a professional.
"I can do hard things"
Courtesy of Glennon Doyle in her book “Untamed”. Such unpoetic words. Almost classless if you think about it. But they pack a punch when said under the right circumstances. And I say them a lot lately. When my newborn is crying and my toddler is overtired, I tell myself “I can do hard things”. When my husband leaves for a work dinner, and I’m left alone with these two, I tell myself “I can do hard things”. When I look up technical statistical language so that I can write my thesis after three months of maternity leave, I tell myself “I can do hard things”. Right before I traveled 16 hours back to Florida with two kids, I told myself “I can do hard things”.
So now I’m thinking, these are the words I need to tattoo somewhere on my body. Because they sure as hell are getting me through the days.
Remembering to say these things is where it gets tricky because when you're in a difficult moment, it's hard to remember anything.
But there's tremendous energy in these words, especially when used appropriately.
So let me tell you when to use what.
(A while back I wrote about the concept of everything is figureoutable, so I'm going to bring it back now).