I coach successful professionals. They’re intelligent, knowledgeable, and resourceful. The majority are highly educated and well-traveled, but there is a subject most of them find elusive—themselves.
One of my clients is relentless about understanding an issue from all angles. He won’t choose a position on a subject until he’s read books, magazine articles, and scientific journals. He’s intellectually voracious.
But even though he’s lived in his mind and body for over 50 years, when I ask him a question about himself—his motivations, desires, or decisions—he usually says, “I don’t know.”
It’s not the kind of curious not knowing we feel as we open the hotel minibar or unwrap a gift. It’s more of the someone-unexpected-is-ringing-the-doorbell-so-I’m-going-to-pretend-I’m-not-home kind of not knowing.