Stress Management Monthly Newsletter

1. Sale of the Month

While children are home for summer vacation, this is the perfect time to take advantage of the award-winning book: "Parenting Without Stress® Punishments or Rewards: How To Raise Responsible Kids While Keeping a Life of Your Own."

Take advantage of this month's discount. Also, share the book with your children. You will be amazed at how disagreements and power struggles will subside.

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2. Quote of the Month

3. Parenting Without Stress

When you have the temptation to tell (which is our usual habit), ask yourself,

“Will the results
be better if I ask a
reflective question?"


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4. Discipline Without Stress

"How to Reduce Bullying"

Here is a marvelously successful idea to stop bullying. The approach can be used to prevent bullying in classrooms, reduce bullying school-wide, and can even stop bullying behaviors in homes. The key is to approach motivation of bullying that prompts people to bully others.

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5. Living Without Stress

The following excerpt is from the award-winning book, "Live Without Stress: How to Enjoy the Journey"

INTERNAL MOTIVATION

The exercise below is an attempt to prove Aristotle’s conclusion that an emotional outcome like happiness is the appropriate end of all behaviors because it is internally satisfying.

You are given the responsibility of a project. Which would you prefer to hear?

A) Your team will be assigned to you.
B) You can choose the team that you wish to join.

B
Choice empowers.

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Which would be most effective for your own improvement?

A) Your supervisor tells you what you did was wrong.
B) You realize what you did wrong—without hearing it from someone else.

B
Self-evaluation is
essential for lasting improvement.

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You throw a wad of paper across the workroom. Your boss sees it leave your hand. Which would be more successful for controlling yourself in the future?

A) The boss tells you to pick it up.
B) Your boss doesn't say anything, but you pick it up.

B
Self-correction is the
most successful approach
for changing behavior
.

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You notice a wastepaper basket on its side. Which would give you more satisfaction?

A) Having someone suggest you turn it upright.
B) Turning it upright without anyone’s saying anything.

B
Acting responsibly is more
satisfying through internal
rather than external motivation.

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You are a teenager and you want to visit a friend on a school night. Which would you rather hear from your parent?

A) No, you cannot go until your homework is completed.
B) Of course you can go—as soon as your work is completed.

B
Positivity is more
constructive than negativity.

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People choose Answer B to the preceding questions because of two dynamic motivators, both of which are internal. The first involves integrity and a sense of “It’s the right thing to do.” The second carries with it a sense of control, which is closely related to choice and empowerment. Deprive people of choice and you often deprive them of motivation.

6. Improving Relationships

Of all the things that cause stress in people’s lives, relationships rank high on the list. Whether it’s between adults, family, friends, or children, relationship challenges are inevitable. Here are three (3) tips for significantly improving relationships and making them less stressful.

1. Give affirmations.

A simple acknowledgement can have dramatic results. This is especially important with young people. They want to assert their independence and autonomy. Just acknowledging that you have HEARD their point of view, regardless of agreement, can have a profound effect on how your growing young one feels about the relationship.

2. Be a good listener.

Simply give your full attention to the person speaking. By using eye contact, a nod now and then, and occasionally interjecting a clarification communicates that you are “with” the person. It helps them feel that you are not only listening, but also hearing what they are saying.

3. Focus on understanding another person—rather than attempting to influence.

Rather than assuming you know the reasoning behind another person’s viewpoint, ask for an explanation. Using this process, the person articulates the reasoning, and you may find that the person’s reasoning is well worth considering. You may receive an insight about the other person that will assist you in your discussions with and understanding of that person.

7. Increasing Effectiveness

Request:

Can you tell more about the KAIZEN approach?

Response:

Go to WithoutStress.com - in the upper right corner in the “search” area, type  “KAIZEN.” A number of articles will appear. In essence, Kaizen refers to continual improvement by taking small steps—not great leaps. 

8. Promoting Responsibility

One of the attributes of the Discipline Without Stress methodology is taking responsibility for one’s behavior. Without “responsibility” no other trait of civility would be possible.

George Washington and many of the other founding fathers of the USA first focused on how one could IMPROVE ONESELF as the first criterion to influence others. “The Rules of Civility,” the etiquette planner that Washington copied as a teenager, begins with the following admonition: “Every action done in company ought to be done with some sign of respect to those that are present.”

Perhaps the concept of respect should be revisited by young people. Examples abound: wearing pajamas in private vs. in public, using certain language in private vs. public, and doing what comes naturally in private or in public.

Civility itself is founded on the concept of taking individual responsibility for appropriateness and respect for others. Reflect: Do your interactions with others promote responsibility and civility?

9. Promoting Learning

Here are a few resources to search for promoting learning especially during the summer:

Discipline Without Stress Resource Guide ➤
Discipline Without Stress Book ➤
Discipline Online ➤
Teaching, Learning, and Other Related Links ➤

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I am inspired and amazed by the philosophy of the Marvin Marshall approach. My entire beliefs have been challenged in a positive way!"

—Mrs. Helen Clark, Parkes High School, New South Wales, Australia

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Learn that you ALWAYS stay in authority WITHOUT using bribes to control, threats, imposing punishments, or any other coercive or EXTERNAL motivational approach at WithoutStress.com.

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