During this past week, I did two conflict circles with students at my school. Prior to each circle, I met with each student individually to hear their perspective about what happened, to empathize with their experience, to support them in imagining how the other person/people involved in the conflict might have felt or what they might have been thinking, and to see if they are calm and reflective enough to be in circle with the other student(s). Conflict circles should always be voluntary, so it's important for each student to choose to participate. During each conflict circle, I always include the first question from Circle Forward's conflict circle, which asks all participants (students and adults) to tell us about a person you admire who handles conflict well. In one circle this week, one student talked about her mom and how she regularly guides her to address conflicts in a positive way. The other student talked about her friend who never gets into fights and how much she admires this friend for this. When we share these stories of someone we admire who handles conflict well, we see that we all have certain struggles with conflict, and we all want to do better (including us as adults). A question I added to this template that has encouraged great sharing and reflection from students is: If you could press the rewind button and go back in time, what would you do differently? When students share what they would do differently, they are implying that they wish they hadn't done those things, which is very helpful in repairing the harm they caused the other person. The more restorative work I do - the more I love it.