Q. How did you get involved in Shidduchim?
A. The story starts with my own Shidduch journey. B"H, fortunately or unfortunately as many people today, I had trouble finding my Bashert and it reached a point where there were no suggestions. I got kind of despaired and decided that it cannot continue that way, I am forced to find a new way to make things move.
At the time, I was learning a series of courses about healing according to the Tanya and I took it upon myself to practice some exercises of which the purpose is to bring to yourself Shefa (abundance), by changing your way of thinking.
B"H I got married soon thereafter. I then decided to pass this on and started to Farbreng about the different Keilim I used along the way. My purpose was really to become a dating coach according to Chassidus and naturally becoming a Shadchan was part of the way.
Q. What Shidduchim do you focus on?
A. I mostly work with Israeli Lubavitchers in their late 20s - early 30s, but I’m really open to any type. These are just the people I know better, can better relate to what I have to say, and B"H approach me.
Q. What can you share with singles in the Parsha?
A. To those who have already been in Shiduchim for a while, I’d suggest to be openminded to hearing new ideas, Segulos, and other ways to do things, as long as they are Mekubal Al Pi Torah obviously, because you never know from where it's going to come in the end. And there are ways to hasten, 100%!
To those who are just starting or still getting prepared, I would advise to learn more and more, as much as you can, about Shidduchim and married life. Because knowledge helps get through this in a much easier way!
And for everyone, I would give 3 small tips, in very short, that could help at any time:
1) When you talk to a Shadchan or any person who might know people, or when you write a profile, be alive, be yourself, with all the Chayus you have, don't be technical.
2) When you are conducting research, ask specific questions which force the people to answer, something at least. As an example, to check the level of anger: If s/he expects something very strongly, and in the last minute the thing is cancelled, how would s/he react? For Yiras Shamaim, a similar question could be asked, with instead of "the thing is cancelled" saying "he hears it's asur, or not mekubal according to Torah or Chassidus" according to the level you are looking for.
3) Don't talk about where to live, Chinuch ways, or things that are connected to the house on the first date! It might make the other side run away. Not because he thinks different, just because he doesn't know you yet. The beginning is made to check how you feel next to this person. If you both feel good, you could start talking about serious issues.
Behatzlocho rabo!! It should be easy and in a good way for everyone, full of Bitachon in Hashem, with the right keilim, and we should all be able to meet in the ultimate wedding of Hashem and Am Yisroel soon Mamash!
Shadchan Odelia Kulik can be reached via WhatsApp at +972-54-235-3193