Today is Day 30 of The Evolving 40, my daily reflection project during the 40 days leading up to my 40th birthday. Some days the writing has been earlier and more joyful than others, but overall it’s been doing what I’d hoped: helping me move into the next phase of my life with awareness of how I’ve evolved and how I’m evolving.
(P.S. If any of you have subscribed to an Evolving Perfectionist newsletter, thank you -- and know that I haven’t gotten it together to send anything out yet. 😬 I can’t even keep up with posting to the blog!)
One of my hopes for the project is to normalize being open, real, and human: feeling the full range of emotions, and managing mental health proactively. I’ve been glad to see the ways that therapy is becoming normalized in mainstream media. Many of my favorite podcasters, from Conan O’Brien to Brené Brown, have talked about the life-changing benefits of therapy.
Glennon Doyle is unabashed about needing medication to maintain a baseline of mental health, as I do; she sings “Jesus loves me, this I know, for he gave me Lexapro” with gratitude when she visits the pharmacy. 😄There is no more shame in taking meds for anxiety and depression than there is for taking them for a congenital heart condition.
A few of the Evolving 40 posts where I've had to dig deep are Jealousy, Value, and most recently, Healing. When I go to these vulnerable places, it’s clear from people's comments that I’m not alone, and I feel less shame and more connection. As Brené Brown says, it’s important for parents to demystify and normalize these complex emotions with our children, too. The more we can talk openly about the dark and twisty places inside all of us, especially during uncertain times, the more we can be there to help each other navigate them.