Hi everyone,
I trust you all had a good long weekend!
Ok, so what's the deal with the narcissism subject you may wonder?
Well, I guess I'm in a very peculiar situation where I CAN address certain niggly topics and just call a spade a spade...obviously within limits, not naming names publicly for obvious reasons etc. Besides, dinkum narcissists tend to get quite narcissistic about these issues! LOL (doh!)
I have recently spoken to no less than 3 IFA's in the last few months...all who have been working for a bonafide narcissist.
Perhaps you're not too sure what that exactly is in our biz, or if you are perhaps working for one as well? Unfortunately we're all quite busy so I can't go into TOO much detail...but here's a few pointers to help identify.
- They Can’t Handle Criticism Or Being Questioned
- They Love Control, Manipulating And Lying
- Your Boss Only Talks About Himself Or Herself And Constantly Needs Admiration.
- Taking Credits From Others And Blaming Others For Mistakes
- They Don’t Allow Someone Else To Be The Center Of Attention
- All-In Or All-Out
- They Want to control the Narrative, and will try and Bury you with legal action if you Dare try leave and/or take your clients With You. Why?? Just because they CAN.
- They Don’t Listen To Others And There Is A Lack Of Connection With Others
....and I'm sure there are a few more signs.
OK, so here's how I slightly differ from most general counsel and those advising folks on to deal with such a boss and all of the rest. Their advice might well apply in various other industries and situations. What I believe about dealing with such a person??
YOU DON'T HAVE TO!!
Yes, you don't have to put up with it! Why do I say that? Well, it's quite simple. I have terms with some really great IFA companies all around the world, and if you're a half decent IFA and you do good business, I will very likely be able to find you a much better fit, possibly with as little disruption to your business or routine as possible.
As an IFA rookie have worked for the odd crook and multi award winning IFA company alike, so I have literally seen and experienced the good, bad and ugly FIRST hand...and it almost cost me my marriage TWICE back in the day.
DON'T compromise folks....DON'T settle, the light at the end of the tunnel does NOT necessarily have to be an oncoming train!
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