I wanted to check in to see how you're holding up. We're in week 4 of social distancing and home-schooling here. And while we're slowly finding a new rhythm to our days, it's still not what I'd consider easy or ideal for anyone in our family. The kids miss their friends and are understandably tired of spending so much time within the four walls of our home. They're growing tired of family walks and bike rides. They need more prompting to do things that keep them well, like moving their bodies, getting to bed on time, and practicing daily hygiene.
And I don't blame them because I feel the same way at times. The self-care habits I've had in place for years now are seeming more and more like a chore. Even though I get tired of being inside my house, it's hard to motivate myself to get outside, too. And parenting from a neurobehavioral lens, where I take a step back from challenging behaviors, lead with empathy, and remain curious to promote connection with my kids...well, let's just say I've not been tested in this way in years. I am definitely working harder than ever to practice what I preach.
A few weeks ago, we were talking about these challenges in my membership community, The Resilience Room. The parents were voicing the concerns and feelings I am guessing many of you have right now. Feelings of being overwhelmed or especially isolated, having difficulty staying in that neurobehavioral mindset, feeling "off" much of the time due to not having the respite and reprieve they once had from their children, who are struggling now more than ever.
And then we shifted the conversation to what we can each do about it, because no matter our current reality, I believe there is always SOMETHING we can do. And the ideas the community had were wonderful...small steps that they were committing to during this stressful time to take extra care of their spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being. I loved their ideas so much that I created a weekly self-care plan template for each of you, with these suggestions in mind.
If you could benefit from more focus on YOU and your well-being as we continue to navigate these challenging circumstances, this template is for you. I'd encourage you to make this a weekly focus, acting as the reset that we could all use right now. Print it off and hang it somewhere where you know you'll see it several times a day. My hope is that it will be one small tool that will help you feel like you are doing more than surviving your day-to-day.
I really am thinking of you, and please know that you are not alone. We are all in this together.