Clarity on a "No Win" Situtation Can't see images? Click here...

An Easy Way to
End Disagreement

There is no doubt that disagreement between people often prompts stress. Whether the disagreement is large or small, it can quickly challenge a relationship.

Sometimes, even for small matters, the disagreement escalates to the point of verbal antagonism. Once that occurs, the stress levels of both parties will be high, and agreement will be elusive. But remember, you always have a choice as to how you handle any situation.

Chances are you can tell when a disagreement is escalating. This is when you must take control and direct the conversation. Rather than letting a disagreement get out of hand, you can reduce stress by doing the following.

Say to the other person, “I don’t want to win. I just want to understand what you are saying. My objective is to CLARIFY, NOT INFLUENCE. You’re saying that you believe A, B, and C. I believe A, B, and D. So we really agree more than we differ.”

By stating this calmly, the other person will naturally match your level. The stress for both parties will reduce.

Even if the disagreement persists, you’ve still made progress. At the worst you have clarified. At the best you have minimized the disagreement and reduced stress for both parties. In any event, it’s good to know where you agree and where you differ. From there, you can focus on solutions rather than all the obstacles.

Tip: To minimize disagreements, state at the outset of the conversation that your goal is not to win the argument. It’s to clarify. Clarity also leads to reducing stress.

For more information about living without stress, visit

If you are an educator, visit,

To handle every discipline problem simply and easily, visit SALE IS ON FOR A LIMITED TIME.

To view Dr. Marshall’s award-winning line of books, visit

To have Dr. Marvin Marshall speak or present at an event, visit

Dr. Marvin Marshall

PO Box 11
Los Alamitos, CA 90720


You received this email because you signed up to receive Marvin Marshall's Insights.