Losing friends in our twenties. Bit of a scary prospect right?
Things change ⚡️quickly⚡️ in our twenties - friendships are no exception. You might find yourself drifting apart from friends who aren't on the same page as you anymore. Did you know that research shows the average person loses half of their friends every seven years? If this sounds depressing, don’t worry. We can explain.
Let’s be honest: losing friends can be tough. But, it's important to prioritise your mental health and well-being. If a friend is causing you more stress than joy, it's time to cut them loose. ❌ This might sound harsh, but it’s the right thing to do. By doing so, you’re creating space for those who lift you up. You deserve to surround yourself with positive and supportive relationships.
Friendships can end in many ways. Some naturally fizzle out over time, such as old primary school friends, whereas others are more obvious - like realising you don’t click anymore. However it happens, it’s all completely fine. That’s life! Prioritise positive and supportive relationships in your life, and don't be afraid to unfollow toxic friends on social media. If you find yourself drifting apart from a friend, it's okay to let go. It's a natural part of life, and it can create space for new and exciting relationships to enter your life.
Here’s the truth: it's okay to lose friends.
In fact, it’s a great thing when done right, so embrace the change. Losing friends can create space for positive relationships in your life. Don't be afraid to reach out and reconnect with old friends. Remember, our twenties are the time to figure all this life stuff out, and friendships are a huge part of that. Try to enjoy the journey, and prioritise those who make you feel good.
Toxic Friendship Checklist
Chances are you might have a friend who you’re in two minds about. Here’s a very unscientific set of thought starters to help you out:
🍃 Is the relationship healthy and positive?
🏋️♀️ Does the friend support and uplift you more often than when they bring you down?
⚡️ Do you find them positive and constructive on the whole?
🔐 Does your friend respect your boundaries?
🤩 Does the friendship cause you more joy than stress?
💬 Would they respond constructively if you told them your friendship wasn’t a positive one?
If mostly yes - you should be okay. If you are still in two minds, try and have a constructive conversation with them.
If mostly no - your friendship might need serious consideration. Sit back and assess if the friendship benefits you. If not, and you don’t think it will change, it might be time to take a step back.