More waiting! My novel is formatted for review, be it with an editor inside a traditional publishing house or one I hire. If I don't receive positive feedback from a traditional publisher by mid-February, I'll proceed down a path to publish the book independently.

Dr. Phil sometimes asks people on his television show, “How's that working for you?” Though abrupt and lacking compassion, I must confess I've used that question as an online coach. People want help but don't want to change what they're doing. I broach this problem in “The High Cost of Stubbornness.”

“Do you mind if I share some wisdom from the Bible about ________?”

I often ask a question like that to people in despair when I chat with them as a coach on an Internet helpline. The word “cutting” commonly fills the blank. Any of us would do well to use that query on ourselves when we encounter a problem. It’s a profound question because it can reveal a person’s state of readiness for a life-changing solution.

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This setting comes with its own distinct scents. And it evokes - in me at least - memories of visiting loved ones who were facing their own mortality and placing their physical wellbeing in the hands of medical professionals whom they didn't even know.

My upcoming novel has a few scenes in a hospital setting. What better place to consider the deeper issues in life . . . and inject a dose of drama?

When you look at this picture, what feelings does it conjure up?

Have you noticed that Christmastime through early January seems to produce a higher frequency of death and loss than at other times of the year? This phenomenon adds more emotion to a season already loaded with it.

The biggest thing I've noticed coaching people who have suffered a loss is that they underestimate its effect as well as the time required for life to return to normal, albeit a new normal. Grief challenges one's emotional equilibrium. It can commandeer thinking and impede daily functioning.

A character in my novel would've found this website helpful. It includes a brief summary of the five stages of grief - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The video at the top of the page is excellent.

Always carry at least one spare tube, an inflation device, and tire irons. CO-2 cartridges are a good backup for a portable pump but not a substitute for it. Debbie and I typically carried multiple spare tubes because a new tube can fail as easily as the tube it replaces. A faulty installation itself can puncture a tube. Patch kits can help if you know how to use them. I confess I haven't after failed attempts to learn.

I Thessalonians 5:18 says to "give thanks in all circumstances."

What? How can one who is grieving a loss of a loved one be thankful?

But, wait a minute. What if you'd never known that person? Wouldn't that be much worse?

The privilege of loving and being loved by that special someone is a blessing that outlives them. Even though their absence leaves a hole in your heart, their indelible imprint on your life is worthy of celebration. Having known them, you will never be the same. May fond memories of them remind you of God's goodness.