Happy 4th of July Weekend!
Last night was the first night - in YEARS - I got to see fireworks. They were from a distance, but I saw them nonetheless. It reminded me to appreciate the small things that make me happy, if only for a moment.
We tend to hold onto the bad moments and develop ways to avoid them happening again. We learn patterns that "protect us" from getting hurt or burned. This is natural, but it hardens us. Over time, we get good at defending ourselves against what might happen, or could hurt hurt us.
Don't forget to savor the good times.
Neurons that fire together wire together. When something good happens to you, let the feelings, warmth and experience of that moment sink in. Remember how it feels. Carry that moment inside you, and let the feel-good hormones sink into your body and mind.
Over time, you will get better at embracing the good moments and letting go of the bad. You will strengthen the neural associations of feeling good = dopamine release, which makes it easier to hold your attention on these experiences.
If you can choose to hold onto the bad moments, you can also choose to hold onto the good.
I hope the second half of the year gives you lots of feel-good hormones!