ChabadMatch Update

Teves 5780 Edition 41

Another Successful Engagement!

Shadchan Rus Kinn relates: "With Hashem's great kindness, a few months after being contacted by the Bachur and speaking with him, the day the Kallah signed up on ChabadMatch, she seemed from her profile to be just what he was looking for, and Baruch HaShem, she was! They met for a few weeks and B"H got engaged!" The Kallah got engaged less than a month from when she registered her profile!

Meet Shadchanim Event: Next Week in Israel!

We are happy to announce our first Meet Shadchanim Event in Israel, taking place January 5 in Kfar Chabad! Register at:

Age Difference — A Crucial Point in a Marriage

Igros Kodesh, Vol. XXII, p. 17

In reply to your letter of Erev Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan in which you write that a shidduch was suggested to you with a gentleman who is more than forty years old:

It seems from your letter that the age difference between the two of you is too great — he is too much older than you. It is also important to ascertain why he has not yet married. Before anything more is done regarding this matter, this reason must be clearly ascertained.

It is also important to ponder the difference in ages, something that has a large impact [on the success of a marriage]. Surely you have friends in the city where that gentleman lives, who hopefully will be able to assist you in the above.

On Making Successful Shidduchim

Q&A With Rabbi Aron Moss

Q. Is there truth to the rumor that if you do 3 successful Shidduchim you go to the highest level of heaven?

A. I have never heard of these promises before, but nevertheless bringing soul-mates together is one of the greatest things you can do. Here's why:

1) It's the first thing G‑d did after He created the world - He introduced Adam and Chava. So you are doing G‑d's work.

2) While we are single, we are only half a soul. By reuniting someone with their other half, you have made them complete. This not only benefits those two individuals, but also the entire world - another piece of fragmentation has been healed.

3) There are souls waiting to come down into this world; by introducing their parents to each other you have brought them closer to fulfilling their purpose.

So the matchmaker has done good for themselves, the couple, the future generations and the entire world!

But even if the couple you introduce don't hit it off, it's still did no harm. Because there is a tradition that we have to meet a certain number of people before we can meet our soul-mate. Even the "failed attempts" help, because it brings the real one that much closer.

So if you have an idea for someone - suggest it! I can't guarantee it will absolve all your sins, but the rewards are definitely worth it.

Facebook Twitter