That fateful May day ten years ago, my then fiancé and I met up at New York’s City Hall and tied our fortunes together (all while securing me some much needed healthcare in CA - lol).
The thing is, we were planning a big bash in Puerto Rico that coming January, the "real" wedding, so we could have headed to city hall in t-shirt and jeans, grabbed a witness, filled out the paperwork and called it a day.
"It all counts." That's what my comadre (and May wedding photographer) Diana counseled, “It all counts. You’re getting married married that day. I know you’re planning a big celebration in Puerto Rico, but this is your wedding day. Celebrate it.”
So that’s what we did. A dress, *the shoes* (swoon), earrings gifted to me by my love the day before, makeup, suit, tie, champagne, lunch, and pictures pictures pictures.
Our officiant was a city clerk who I half expected to say “MAAAWAGE. MAWAGE IS WOT BWINGS US TOGETHER TODAY”
It was PERFECT.
Our May wedding was quiet and intimate. We had a chance to really share this special day with a small group of our loved ones.
I could never have imagined then that Papi would not be here when we reached this ten year milestone.
I am incredibly grateful for those bonus memories we got with him because we chose to celebrate BOTH the paperwork wedding and the party party party wedding.
I'm sharing this with you because the same advice rings true for me about writing: it ALL counts.
Every little scribble.
Every sentence, every chapter, every submission, every rejection.
It's all a part of what makes this jumble of awe, wonder, despair, grief, and elation that make up a writing life.
It ALL counts. And you should celebrate it. Often.
This Friday I'm taking my first live online writing class in years (details below), and I CANNOT WAIT! That's the writing thing I'm celebrating this wee. In fact, I just did a little happy dance in my chair :)