"When nothing new can get in, that's death. When oxygen can't find a way in, you die. But new is scary, and new can be disappointing, and confusing - we had this all figured out, and now we don't."
--Anne Lamott--
For years I struggled with 'having to start again'. It felt like a recursive failure that inevitably I was going to have to face up to, again, because consistency has never been my strongest suit. But that's a hard story to hold against yourself when sometimes consistency isn't easy because of family responsibility or chronic illness. Even the fact that we consider consistency as a linear timeline sets each of us up for a certain kind of failing.
I love the idea that consistency (especially for women) is cyclical, and it comes with high energy and low energy, intense focus and wandering distraction. Sometimes consistency means you serendipitously get lost in a way that brings you full circles and you arrive back at the inception point as a slightly different version of yourself, with new experiences and new fortitude to help you approach this thing (painting, novel, recipe, garden, habit, relationship...) with new eyes and a stronger heart.
Because somewhere, and somehow, this year I gave up the burden of 'starting again'. Instead, I've just started. Wherever I find myself. Sometimes that is where I left off. Sometimes it is in a brand new place. And other times, it's a kind of ad-hoc hybrid of something old and something new (all I need now is to weave in something borrowed and something blue!) Sometimes the bits fit together immediately and it is fabulous. And sometimes it tanks.
For the last month or so I've been trying to enact a brilliant new plan to engage with writing again: to return to the old way of a writer's date on a Saturday morning.
I started doing this in late 2017 as a way to feel my way back into the disrupted narrative of my first birthpunk novella (this was long before she had a name or a deadline for publication through the creation of The JAR Writers' Collective). It was disrupted both as a story and as a project taunting me from arm's reach; the novella was never prepared to give up on me and bugger off to someone else who could give it more time and attention that I was able to manage.
Saturday mornings, through that early Spring and into Summer, I went out at 7am. I had a lovely breakfast and even nicer coffee at a local cafe I found tucked away in the backstreets. I mucked around with words for an hour or so with no goal other than to be with them and hopefully leave them in a slightly better state when I shut the document down. And the icing on the cake, I left via the florist next door with a bunch of flowers to see me through the rest of the week.
Honestly, there was nothing not to like about it (even leaving the house at 7am was easy because my body clock had shifted to dawn wakings). For the life of me, I'm not sure why I stopped, but I remember my favourite waitresses one by one left and went to work somewhere else. Maybe that was why?
A writing date is really the last thing left in my arsenal of solo kickstarts, having failed dramatically at binge writing earlier this year because there is something about the Birthpunk Universe that refuses to ever truly let me be. And I've felt the ever-growing insistent tug to return since I started uni. I may have failed at bingeing like the old days, but gratefully it is not my only hack.
And so last weekend, I took myself out for a writing date. I spent the days leading up to Saturday actually looking forward to going out. My sleep schedule had shifted back to early mornings. Hooray! I was primed to be up and out the house early enough to justify snagging a Saturday morning table for a few hours.
It worked (even though I tried at the very last moment to sabotage the entire set-up by being unwilling to choose a new cafe for these mornings. *sigh*).
In the end it didn't have to be new. Sometimes the old and known are better.
I came home from Hallowed Grounds with New Words. New Very Bad Words but that's okay. If nothing else, first drafts are full of small windows of inspired, incredible writing with the rest of the space filled with dross. I managed not to get tangled in the hurdle of myself and hopefully this weekend I'll get out again and the weekend after that, and so forth, until more time opens up during the week for writing.
While there won't be a new birthpunk title this year, something new is on the cusp of release and I look forward to sharing it when next we meet in this space.
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