Which path should I take?

New Hope Counseling, PLLC

'Unleashing the Peace Within'. Vol. 1 Ed.4


We live in a very, very, busy world. There is so much that calls our attention all the time: smart phones,  tablets, computers, social media, television, radio, busy city life, and all the choices that come with such abundance of information.

If that isn't enough to overload us, in addition to all of that external noise, each of those sources have a near endless amount of opinions which also have to be sorted through. There are critics everywhere, who amply express their views. Often times these critics site scientific studies, yet those studies frequently have agendas which, if uncovered, cause their findings to appear suspect. 

Add to the heap of information and noise, the statistics which tell that our base of knowledge doubles (at least) every five years. This amassing of data is evidenced by continual updates to every facet of our technology, which in turns requires us to 'keep up' or be left behind. Thus, we are required by modern existence to constantly be moving, learning, adapting, and changing.

All of this wealth of information call lead to what has been called 'analysis paralysis' as we seek to sort through it all to come to our own conclusions and find the answers we are often seeking. 

Which answers do we pay attention to? Whose opinions matter the most? What studies do we base our decisions on? Oh! And you better hurry up with that decision, because the special won't last forever, and is for a limited time only. Hurry! Think! Decide! And above all GET IT RIGHT!

How Do We Sort Through All of This Noise?

First of all, its important to recognize that we simply don't have to sort through it all. We don't have to pay attention to every detail, to every opinion, to every sound that calls our attention. In fact, we just can't do this, or we lose our peace of mind. 

Secondly, we can go through a sorting process. Not all noise deserves equal attention. We can sort the gobs of information into basically two piles. One pile consists of things that add to our peace of mind. The other pile is for all those things that don't. To do this right, it is important that we do some 'self reflection'. Self reflection is where we remove our selves from the commanding noises and listen to whats happening inside us. Then, we can use self reflection to discern from the piles what to keep and what to bypass for later, or to completely disregard.

Of course, to do this sorting adequately, it is important that we have a reasonable ability to sort through our emotions. That means we have to know how to listen to them, but what if we've learned to shut them off and ignore them? 

Unfortunately, if we've learned to shut off our emotions, that suggests we have become accustomed to heeding the loudest most commanding noises, or only the rational thinking side of things. If we listen to only the rational thinking side of things, we may have the illusion that we are hearing ourselves - but what we're actually hearing is the adopted noise of the loudest experts, or the social conformity systems adopted over the years, rather than our own views and sense of things. 

We Can Learn to Listen

Fortunately we can learn how to listen to our emotions again. However, to do so requires our ability to tune out the loudest noises, the anger, the fear, and to listen to the softer things beneath. When we learn to do this, we become surprised to find that we can actually sort through the noises which bring us inner peace, and those which simply disturb us. 

Heeding our nightly dreams, paying attention to our likes and dislikes, recognizing that we feel moved by certain songs, movies, or experiences, are just some of the ways that allow us to begin to listen again. If we then share these moving experiences with others, then we develop greater ability to feel them. Our emotions like to be heard and validated, certainly by others but also by our own selves.  

We Can Learn to Follow Light Over Dark

As we become more aware of our own emotions, then we can recognize that some things experienced cause us to feel a 'lightness' of emotion; whereas other things cause us to feel a 'darkness of emotion'. We can learn to stir away from those things which produce darkness of emotion and follow after those things which restore lighter emotion. 

When we have made choices to deviate from those things which bring lighter feeling emotion, we can acknowledge that we have followed a wrong path, even apologizing to ourselves or others for doing do. Though these things seem simple, it takes great practice to do them adequately, but the practice is well worth the effort!

The eventual goal is to maintain a sense of inner peace and calmness at all times, despite the chaos, the misfortune, the setbacks, and the other things which seem to thwart us. When those things occur, they are generally short term, and can almost always be improved upon by good clear thinking and feeling, rather than giving in to panic and despair - things which only make matters worse and never improve them. . 

Accept Your Inner Compass

The few things described here in this newsletter all lead to the enhancement of what I call an 'inner compass'. I also refer to it as a 'natural force for healing', which is inside of each of us, reached by accessing our emotions and understanding them, especially when we move beyond our fears and anger. 

This inner compass is a valuable commodity, which if understood, developed, and followed, guides people to greater happiness in their daily lives, greater career satisfaction, improved relationships, and a general overall  sense of connection. 

The Change from Mind to Heart

I've recently put together a eBook entitled "Leave the World Behind: The Change from Mind to Heart", which describes the path of re-connecting with our emotions. In fact, the book was written for those contemplating suicide or who, in other ways, find themselves in 'dead end' situations; situations from which they find no release.  Learning how to overcome external struggles and find inner peace is a great way to regain control of one's life, when such control otherwise seems impossible. 

If you're interested, you can check out that book in PDF or audio book form at the link provided below.

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Learning about our emotions can seem challenging, and truly it is. Yet, it is also rewarding! Only by doing so, can we find our 'true selves'.

If you have any questions or needs, feel free to reach out at my contact information below. 

Dennis Tucker, LCSW Therapist/Owner

New Hope Counseling, PLLC

9176 S. 300 W. STE 13, Sandy UT 84070


(801) 979-0610